I’ve met people only online so far as well. Dating apps can lead to actual dates sometimes lol. There are also always local meet up groups whether for particular interests or just for general singles. For example, I went to a local LGBT meetup group recently and it seems like the kind of thing where relationships can develop organically from the friends I hope to make there. Taking a perspective of friends first can help with dating prospects too imo
I dated a girl for a bit who really, really loved having her ass eaten and vice versa so… I don’t think it is. I’m pretty sure my distaste for it was a factor in her calling things off.