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  • wewbull@feddit.uktoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•When creating a story with minority protagonists, is it better not to create white male characters?English
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    1 day ago

    <sigh> stop with the “right-wing ideological white men” thing. It’s not political at this point.

    A lot of “racially aware” writers seem to have ended up in a headspace where they can’t write white without making them a punching bag. It’s obvious. It’s childish. It’s racist. People of all races will be angry when their only representation in a piece of work is a lazy stereotype. You don’t need to be right-wing for that.

    You can say “well now they know how it feels”, but that just means you’ve also sunk to the lowest level.

    Unless race is critical to the plot, there’s no need to lean into it. Emphasising division breeds division. Just write a good story.

  • wewbull@feddit.uktoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•for those of you with good communication skills, what do I tell my manager so she stops telling me I need to talk more (socially)?English
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    13 days ago

    If you really want to give it one last chance before leaving my advice would be to have a 1-on-1 talk with her.

    Start out by saying that:

    • You understand that she works in a different way to you.
    • You feel more secure when your private and work lives are separate.
    • You feel you are able to do your best work when you can focus on the task without distraction.

    “Feel” is an important word here. You’re not trying to be confrontational. You’re trying to express your position so she can understand you and how you work better. You’re trying to show her the right way to manage you, rather than pointing out the wrong way.

    Then ask a couple of questions:

    • Does she want you to communicate more because she’s worried that you’re not communicating issues that she needs to be aware of in her role? If so, that’s a valid concern. Maybe organise a fixed time each week to discuss such issues so you can plan for it and come prepared.

    • Does she think she can accommodate how you like to work?

    I expect she values “openness” but that doesn’t need to be sharing your whole life with the people you work with. So meet her half-way, be open about what you’re working on and the problems you’re facing. She may be able to help you by resolving your dependencies on others, or getting you what you need.